The greatest victim of bullying

bul·ly·ing [bllee ing] noun intimidation of weaker person: the process of intimidating or mistreating somebody weaker or in a more vulnerable situation Microsoft® Encarta® 2009. © 1993-2008 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. cdn2.kimkcdn.celebuzz.com Bullying stands out as a global problem, especially to the youth. It has victimized millions. And the need to solve and address this is imminent. If the bully is the one who is bullying, then does it follow that we should prosecute the bully? Should we corporately punish, expel, suspend, and to a great extent, send bullies to jail?  No, a clear no, we should not do these. Not known by many, the greatest victims of bullying are the bullies themselves. The bullies are not at fault for becoming the person they are. There are several factors that come into play, the media, the social upbringing, peers. These all play a part. Notice that the media in a variety of forms, either movies, TV shows, novels, and even video games, take violence as a part of society. Violence in the form of action movies like the Bourne Legacy, Wrestling shows like WWE and video games like Halo, and the Warriors. In fact, they don’t just accept violence, they revere it. Only in these times have bringing a gun, joining gangs, and beating people to a pulp have never been so cool! And at the flick of the remote, access to these contents can easily get into the minds of the youth. Another thing that makes the media even more powerful is the parents who do not guide or supervise their children. The parents should be able to teach their children the borders between right and wrong. How a child is brought up to this world defines his personality. So if the media is not at fault, then maybe this person, whom we call the bully didn’t have a great childhood. Maybe he was neglected, perhaps he was beaten, and maybe just maybe he never felt loved or affection. It’s no surprise that because the bullies doesn’t feel good about themselves that their thoughts about themselves are so low, that in order to gain happiness, satisfaction and pleasure, they have the need to degrade others lower than they are.

Finally, more often than not, bullies don’t start as bullies. Usually, they might have gotten into the wrong crowd or met the wrong friends. Peers, friends, whatever you call them, can make or break you. And if you spend time with people who hurt, discriminate, intimidate, and prank others just for the fun of it, chances are, you’ll become one of them.

It can be safely concluded that the bullies are not at fault. There are several factors that come into play. Bullying is simply a manifestation of the effects of the media, social upbringing, and peers.

Scolding the bully repeatedly, over and over again, suspending, expulsing, and if all comes to jailing, does not in any way solve the problem of bullying, it makes it even worse. You have gotten rid of the bully, but not the bullying.

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Bullies are people like us, human beings. They’re just a little confused, maybe misguided. So let’s not blame them, but help them. Lets help them, lets bring them to the light. Change them to the person who will accept and love others for the way they are, just as much as they love and accept themselves.

After all, the biggest victim of bullying are not the bullied, but the bullies themselves. 

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